Showing posts with label my opinion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label my opinion. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 25, 2018

The Lifegiving Table - Book List Review

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The Lifegiving Table: Nurturing Faith Through Feasting, One Meal at a Time
Book by Sally Clarkson

I am really enjoying this book challenge.  I have never followed someone else's suggestions on reading a whole list, and I'm so happy I am.  Through some of these books, especially the Christian titles, I have really learned a lot. And in ways I wasn't expecting.

I have always liked to entertain, unfortunately my husband doesn't share this enthusiasm. Well at least not until recently.  In January 2018 we moved from Calgary to a county in the country - none of my family (except myself) have ever really been on an acreage.

For the time being we are not going to have animals such as chickens or goats, we're just sticking with our 2 dogs, 8 cats, 2 teenagers, my mother-in-law, my husband and me.  I think that's enough for now. Between trying to get our house harmoniously in order with five peoples belongings and navigating a life change of living in the country, we all think this is a very good thing.

I made it clear, that when we moved out to our new homestead I really want to entertain more.  Not every week, but at least once a month. So far, it just may work and listening to this latest audiobook has really made me excited for this new season in my life, well, our lives.

Through reading this book I am learning to make our home a more restful and emotionally safer place. That encourages conversation and communication within our family first.  We've learned to talk to eachother before someone is invited over and even discuss the menu before we invite anyone.  Even though I'm the one who will be cooking, my family still needs to participate in setting the table, entertaining our guests and making room at our table.  All while making sure both my family and our guests are comfortable.

Most importantly food and faith will be a big factor of these meals and this book gives great tips and ideas on how to do it without being pushy and invasive.

This book may just be another that I have to buy to have in my collection for reference. I hope you'll give this book a read or listen to (I listened to it on audio from Hoopla for free) it is really worth it.

Let me know what you thought of the book in the comments below.  This review is my opinion only and I am not receiving any money for this post.

Blessings friends and share how you entertain in the comments below.

Val








Wednesday, April 4, 2018

The Lost Gate - Book Review

The Lost Gate

Listened to this on Hoopla for free: https://www.hoopladigital.com/title/11599566


This was a fantastic book! Taking place in 'our time' Danny grows up in a village that prides themselves on being Demi-gods decended from Thor and other Norse gods.
A bit like the Percy Jackson books with a few interesting twists in the story. There is also an alternate timeline that's just as intriguing.
This is a great fiction read for teens to adults.

I enjoyed both of the narrators. Let me know what your thoughts are about this fiction book.

This is just my opinion and I am not getting paid for this post.

Fervent - A Book Review


Fervent

Fervent: A Woman's Battle Plan to Serious, Specific and Strategic Prayer

Wow! Yet another book I'm going to have to purchase to have it to reference! I really enjoyed this book. In each strategy Priscilla teaches how not everything in her book may work for everybody the same way, you may need to tweek some things to make them your own.

 I also like how she says that some of the things suggested won't be easy and reminds you that satan is out to get your spiritual life - he'll kick your ass anyway he can; especially from the inside of your family.  It's up to you to fight the battle and win the war - with God's guidance and leading.

I paired reading this with watching War Room on Netflix - what a double whammy to add to one's prayer and spiritual life!  If you haven't seen the movie - do so - NOW! It's really interesting how the characters develop and are spiritually challenged and led.

Have you read the book? Or watched the movie?  Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.  This review is my own opinion and I am not getting paid to do this review.


Thursday, March 29, 2018

Reading List - Refresh

Refresh

It's available on Hoopla to listen for free: https://www.hoopladigital.com/title/11941770


If you're feeling overwhelmed, pulled in different directions; this is a great book to learn some techniques to heal/move through your obstacles.
Some things I tried and they are working.
The authors hubby wrote a companion book to this one for the men.
I'm going to buy this one for my collection for regular reference!

I enjoyed the narrator on this audio book. Please share your comments below on what you think about this book.

this is my opinion and I am not getting paid for this review

Sunday, February 18, 2018

Reading List - The Silver Spear

The Silver Spear
Book by Clare C. Marshall


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This is book 2 of a three part series.  The first book, Violet Fox is also fantastic.  

A 16 year old girl is due to marry the prince of the Merlenian realm. She grew up having to fight for freedom, food and a place to sleep and now she lives in a castle about to be a queen.

How can she fit the needs of her people, the Freetors with a people that want to enslave and prevent the Freetors from becoming free and getting lands they deserve.

When a quest to find the Silver Spear could unite the two warring factions, Kiera knows this is what must be done; with or without her prince.

This is such a good read! Great for pre-teens to adults. Lots of adventure and hints of romance without being too involved or vulgar.

Read it and let me know what you think of it.



This is just my opinion and i'm not getting paid for this review.












Friday, February 16, 2018

Book List - Family Worship by Donald Whitney

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I downloaded this on Hoopla on audio. At first the guy reading the book (the author) was hard to listen to, but I soon got used to his voice.  The lessons are great but the questions to go over as a study book aren't given until the end. So if you plan to use this book as a study, the paper or e-book version may be better. 

I liked some of the approaches to family worship for example how to teach your kids to be stronger in worship of God.  If your husband isn't being the spiritual head of the household - how can you encourage him?  And if your husband isn't a Christian but you, as mother are, how can you be both a beacon to your husband and a guide to your children.

I learned a lot from this book and I hope you'll share your opinions with me too.




Read more about the book HERE
This is just my opinion and I am not getting paid to post this.

Thursday, February 15, 2018

Second book from my reading list - fiction Beth Moore book

The Undoing of Saint Sivanus by Beth Moore


The Undoing of Saint Silvanus


This is Beth Moore's premiere drama fiction book. At first, although I was enjoying the story I wanted to slap the character Jillian.  As you read (or listen to the audio as I am) her character evolves and you share so many of her ordeals and trials and you start identifying with her.

Jillian is also dealing with a lot of drama in her young life as so many of us do in today,s modern world. Jillian needs to come to terms with the death of a father she didn't know, her grandmother - the ice queen, and people who meant well but kept poking their nose into her business.

There is a great mystery involved revolving around her fathers death and the church converted to a house, that her grandmother lives in.  There are great characters to keep your attention. The only thing I really didn't like was after the climax the story does go on a little longer than I was expecting, but the things that happened were nice to read.

This book does have spiritual aspects and references and  some lessons to teach us.  Overall a decent read while sitting cozy under a blanket at the end of the day.

Thanks for reading my post and I would like to know what you thought of this book.

Blessings,
Val


This is my opinion and is not sponsored in any way
Check out The Undoing of Saint Silvanus on hoopla digital.
https://www.hoopladigital.com/title/11652695 #hoopladigital

Sunday, February 11, 2018

Armour of God - You Are Now Outfitted in the Full Armour of God










In order to succeed in our battle with Satan we must be prepared and put on the Full Armour of God. The scriptures in each of our previous lessons about The Armour of God are to prepare ourselves daily to win the war against Satan and his demons.

Belt of Truth

  • know Jesus
  • know His Word
  • Live His Word
Breastplate of Righteousness
  • protects the heart
  • God's righteousness He gives us
  • to live like Jesus- Gods righteousness He produces in us
  • to make the right choices - to think and then act properly
  • resist temptation - even the little ones
  • its easier to make the right choices than correct them
Shoes (sandals) of Peace
  • stand ready in faith - take your position and hold/stand firm
  • be at peace with God
  • be at peace with others
  • share your faith with others
Shield of Faith
  • know and live God's Word
  • act on your faith
  • resist worry, fear and doubt
  • trust the promises of God

All pieces of the Armour of God are to prepare and protect us. They should never be taken off or set down on the battlefield.

We have gone through each piece of armour over the last through weeks. The challenge was not just to learn about each piece but to begin a study of God's Word and to be prepared to stand firm against the false teachings of this world; to be prepared to answer the questions of non-believers we encounter on  a daily basis.

This is just my opinion 

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Falling In Love With God..... Again!



Those that know me, know I became a Christian when I was 5. My paternal grandmother showed me God, Jesus and how much He loves me.

     Those who know me also know I Don't Hug!  Well, I do hug my kids and hubby, but I just don't like hugging anyone else.  That's right, not my parents, not my good friends - I tense up every time.
     I'm fairly certain I know the reason why I don't hug guys (that I'm not ready to share); and as for the girls.... I know of two things that lead to No Hugging.

  1. when I was 10 I was a hugging girl. Then I met some girls that were popular. Inviting me into their fold. First one of them spread rumors about me starting a serious spiral into me getting badly bullied. Then we went to the lake and played on inner tubes. This group of girls were hugging me, telling me what a great friend I was and then pushed me under the water and held me there until I started to black out.... 
  2. The other reason has two consequences from the experience.  My mom was a big part of our church, giving of her time freely and often. I thought the church was a safe place. My mom would receive boxes of cloths for her to repair and wash and then send to donations.  As a perk for helping my mom, my siblings and I got to pick one or two items from the box.  One day I wore one of these exciting new outfits to church. One of the ladies I looked up to (and hugged often) said to me in front of many people, "How do you like that outfit?  It was my daughters and she didn't want it any more. I'm glad someone in your standing can appreciate our generosity. It's nice to have free things from others, isn't it?"       what did I learn from this?  Don't trust adults outside of family and church isn't fun or safe anymore.

I do try to get past these things, but when you get burned enough, its just easier to stand back. 


     Then after a few teenage years of ups and downs, I moved to Calgary, AB. When I came to Calgary, I was definitely in a spiritual wilderness - until stirrings in my heart in 1992 after I met Rob (who is now my husband). At the time we met, he believed in God, but didn't know if he was a Christian.  We read some bible stories together, went to church with my mom at Easter. 
      I told Rob I was concerned that he didn't know if he was a Christen and he and I prayed together as Rob accepted Jesus into his heart.
     Due to earlier experiences and some reading I had done over the years, I didn't believe we needed to go to church; as God doesn't take attendance, he's everywhere. Especially in your heart.
     Then my parents moved to Vulcan from Calgary and because she was so active in this church I agreed to do a favor for my mom and attend her church at least once a month. The purpose was to share her news with her friends from church and vice versa. 
     I got sucked in pretty fast. This church was different. I attended, by myself for a few months, at once a month intervals, then every other week. My daughter asked to come, then my son and finally in 2009 we were coming to church as a family.
     All the while I could feel God working in my heart. I became excited to come to church! I found myself falling in love with God all over again!  Better yet, my family was too and in 2012 we were baptized as a family, all our family serves in the church.
   I'm not going to fib. There have been some set backs. I tried to start a women's bible study group, it only had sparatic attendance and went OK, but God said to stop for now, its not time.
     Now I frequently find myself overflowing with love and the spirit - I need to get it out!
So I am going to do a weekly Christian blog post and a second weekly post to do with my 'mom stuff'. I hope you will join me and share your feelings and comments below.



Thanks and God Bless you and yours!
Oh, and to the ladies at my current church - I'm working on this hugging thing - please be patient with me!
Love Valerie

Thursday, November 28, 2013

Grow More In The Lord: Helping Others Know Jesus

Women's Bible Study - Helping Others Know Jesus
November 21/13




"The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me 
To preach good news to the poor; 
He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim freedom for the prisoners, 
To recover the sight of the blind, 
To release the oppressed and proclaim the year of the Lord's favor." Luke 4:18-19 (NKJV)


Many of us do not know if we can be a Servant of Christ. What is it to serve? You know you can be a servant when you look at how you respond to someone treating you like a servant.
Do you have a servant's heart? Do you give your time and yourself to helping others when you can, because you can, or because you feel you have to?
Keep in Mind:  Jesus is asking us to do what He, Himself did when He was on Earth.

POINT TO PONDER:

I serve God by serving others.

“If you give even a cup of cold water to one of the least of my followers, you will surely be rewarded.” 
MATTHEW 10:42 (NLT)


A popular phrase today is 'Servant Leader'. Is this because of the human ego? When we declare ourselves a leader are we not expecting others to serve us?  God doesn't care what label we put on it; he just wants us to serve with our heart.
The more you serve the more God pours His blessings into your life.

The first step to bringing others to Jesus is getting baptized yourself. Not only is it a commandment in the bible, its also His wish that we declare publicly that as an adult we choose to follow Jesus and wish all who see us, to know we choose Jesus (and God).

The second step: God wants us to have connection with Him on the first day of every week. Sunday.  So we can be guided into our next week with a strong foothold.

Jesus read the prophecy of himself (the Messiah is coming one day) from the scroll of:
  • anointed me to preach good news to the poor
  • sent me to heal the broken-hearted
  • to proclaim freedom for the prisoner
  • to recover the sight of the blind
  • to release the oppressed and proclaim the year of the Lord's favour

The third step: How can you know if you have the heart of a servant? Jesus said, "You can tell what they are by what they do."

1. Real servants make themselves available to serve.
When God calls upon us for an act of service, do we grumble? Do we reject it, saying that our schedule is already filled to the brim? Real servants don't fill up their time with other pursuits that could limit their availability. Just like a soldier, a servant should be ready for duty anytime. Are we available to God anytime? Can he mess up our plans without becoming resentful?
Let's remind ourselves at the start of each day that we are God's servant, so that interruptions won't frustrate us as much, because our agenda will be whatever God wants to bring into our life.

2. Real servants pay attention to needs.
Servants are always on the lookout for ways to help others. John Wesley, an incredible servant of God, once said, "Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the places you can, at all times you can, to all the people you can, as long as you ever can.  "That is greatness.
We can begin by looking for small tasks that no one else wants to do. (yes, even cleaning the church toilet)

3. Real servants do their best with what they have.
Servants don't make excuses, procrastinate, or wait for better circumstances. God expects you to do what you can, with what you have, wherever you are. Less-than perfect service is always better than the best intention.
One reason many people never serve is that they fear they are not good enough to serve. Well, the truth is, almost everything we do is done poorly when we first start doing it - that's how we learn.

4. Real servants do every task with equal dedication.
As servants, whatever we do, do it with all our hearts.. The size of the task is irrelevant. The only issue is, does it need to be done?
You will never arrive at the state in life where you're too important to help with menial tasks. Jesus specialized in menial tasks that everyone else tried to avoid: washing feet, helping children, fixing breakfast, and serving lepers. Nothing was beneath him, because he came to serve. It wasn't in spite of his greatness that he did these things, but because of it. And he expects us to follow his examples.

5. Real servants are faithful to their ministry.
Servants finish their tasks, fulfill their responsibilities, keep their promises, and complete their commitments. They don't leave a job half undone, and they don't quit when they get discouraged. They are trustworthy and dependable.
Faithfulness has always been a rare quality. Most people don't know the meaning of commitment. They make commitments casually, then break them for the slightest reason without any hesitation, remorse, or regret. Every week, churches and other organizations must improvise because volunteers didn't prepare, didn't show up, or didn't even call to say they weren't coming.
Can we be on counted by others? Are there promises we need to keep, vows we need to fulfill, or commitments we need to honour? God is testing our faithfulness. Imagine what it will feel like one day to have God say to you, "Well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling this small amount, so now I will give you many more responsibilities. Let's celebrate together!"
Faithful servants never retire. They serve faithfully as long as they're alive. You can retire from your career, but you will never retire from serving God.

6. Real servants maintain a low profile.
Servants don't promote or call attention to themselves. Instead of acting to impress and dressing for success, they "put on the apron of humility, to serve one another." If recognized for their service, they humbly accept it but don't allow notoriety to distract them from their work.
Serving in order to impress people with how spiritual we are, is the sin of the Pharisees. They turned helping others, giving, and even prayer into a performance for others. Jesus hated this attitude and warned, "When you do good deeds, don't try to show off. If you do, you won't get a reward from your Father in heaven."
In our bodies, we have several prominent parts that we could live without. Most people could go on living without an arm, a leg, or even an eye, but nobody could live without a brain, or a heart. It is the hidden parts inside our bodies that are significant.
Knowing this, let's not be discouraged when our service is unnoticed or taken for granted. Keep on serving God! Even the smallest service is noticed by God and will be rewarded. Remember the words of Jesus: "If, as my representatives, you give even a cup of cold water to a little child, you will be surely be rewarded."


Who Jesus came to help


"THE POOR"  
Types of poverty: The Have Nots of life.  There are times in our lives when we don't have what we need. i.e- time, energy, money, spiritual feeling.... There are times we are lacking.
·          Material poverty (have the world is living on $2 a day - North America is very rich in comparison (Mother Teresa and the banana)
·          Moral poverty - lack of integrity or knowledge of right and wrong or just want to do what's easiest or best for you
·          spiritual poverty - don't know what God has planned for your life. So many don't know how much God loves them


"THE BROKENHEARTED"
The Let-down:  The term broken-hearted came from the bible - Psalm 69:20
there is the Broken-heart syndrome where a traumatic event will cause your own body to release a chemical that breaks down the tissue of your heart
·          disappointment- don't turn out how you planned
·          rejection - when you feel rejected by a loved one or someone you respect
·          resentment - holding a grudge, eats you alive


"THE IMPRISONED"
Types of prisons: 
·          addictions - and compulsions; substance, event, porn, relationship
·          secrets - you don't feel you can share or tell someone (James - confess to each other) revealing your feeling is the beginning of healing
·          ignorance - lack of education.  Half of the world cannot read or write. Bible talks about Jesus being a teacher and how He teaches us
·          fear - the bigger it gets the tighter your prison. Fear only gets bigger if you don't share
The Locked Up in their own life someway - sometimes resulting from being Broken-hearted


"THE BLIND"
Types of blindness: The shut out of life - don't get to experience what others see and do because of their prison
·          relational blindness - you don't see how you're messing up the relationship, and you don't see the self-defeating attitude. what the common denominator in those failed relationships? you!  Men can be clueless in this way...
·          spiritual - close our eyes to the goodness of God and attribute that good to ourselves; although blame God for all the bad things that happen
·          physical blindness - colour blind, night blind, total blindness


"THE OPPRESSED"
Types: The kicked around - by circumstances, taken advantage of, bullied, etc
·          political - refugees have been pushed out of their country. Those enslaved, this is not outlawed outside of North America. (c
·          cultural - depending on where we live. Asia has girls that go neglected, or infancide (the killing of first born baby girls), each year 2 million girls between 5 and 15 sold into sexual slavery or honour killing (husband or father thinks the wife or girl did something wrong against the family)
·          spiritual  - depressed, stressed, give it all up.  This is a gift from Satan to discourage you



"The year of JUBILEE"  - year of the Lord's favour - law in Leviticus -
·          God said he didn't want us to be work slaves (every 7 days take a day off for rest and worship- commandment).
·           Every 7th year let the land rest and take that year off (sabbatical - to recharge) -
·          every 50th year have a year of Jubilee; every debt cancelled, everyone in prison for debt or enslaved for debt is set free, the land returns to original owner.
He did this in honour of the promised land to let everyone realize that we don't actually own anything, its just on loan for however many years you are on this earth. Its like God evens the score for everyone.  But Israel never observed this so God.  So the served become the servants and the servants can redeem themselves.
"I have given you an example to follow. Now do as I have done to you." John 13:15 (NLT)

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Women's Bible Study - Helping Others Know Jesus
November 21/13- Worksheet


  1. Which of the six characteristics of a real servant offers the greatest challenge to me? ____________________________________________________________
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  1. How do I serve? __________________________________________________
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  1. How can we follow What Jesus came to do? List a person that shows you the following:
"Preach good news"

"Heal the broken-hearted"

"Proclaim freedom"

"Provide recovery of sight"

"Release the oppressed"

  1. Start with your own family today. Serve them as you can, when you can (without the resentment of 'getting taken advantage of').  Explain to the children why you are doing the laundry, cooking meals, volunteering outside of the home. Show them how to be a servant with a glad heart.  
  2. What 3 things will you do this week to kick-start your serving others?
  3. Share the good news of Jesus (with someone you know).
  4. Share that you are a Christian at work. Work it into a conversation.  Find that person around you that may be hurting others, they are hurting themselves and need your Love and serving.
  5. Remind yourself that Jesus is with you, everyday! Talk to God frequently every day- He will show you where you can serve or how to introduce Him to others.  Perfect Love of Christ casts out all fears. (the fear of embarrassment or rejection is caused by Satan and is worse than actually doing the deed we fear)
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THE P.E.A.C.E. PLAN: JESUS' STRATEGY
Promote reconciliation 
Equip servant leaders (pastor, volunteer coordinator)
Assist the poor
Care for the sick
Educate the next generation

God knows when we are weak and wants to help us to show others His Love!

"… I have become a servant of everyone so that I can bring them to Christ… When I am with those who follow Jewish laws, I do the same, even though I am not subject to the law, so that I can bring them to Christ. When I am with Gentiles… I fit in with them as much as I can… so I can bring them to Christ. But I do not discard the law of God; I obey the law of Christ. When I am with those who are oppressed, I share their oppression so that I might bring them to Christ. I try to find common ground with everyone so that I might bring them to Christ. I do all this for the sake of the Good News, and in doing so I enjoy its blessings."
1 Cor. 9:19-23 (NLT)



How are we going to help others know Jesus?
by growing into and showing a servants heart

Encouragement - Memory Verses
Isaiah 60:1-2


This lesson inspired by The Purpose Driven Life Day 33

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Women's Bible Study - Overcoming Guilt


Women's Bible Study - Overcoming Guilt
November 7/13

Today's world has so many over-expectations for women. We are needed to run the home, teach our families how to work together, perhaps we are the one in charge of the family finances, we need to help a sick friend, attend church, be a strong Christian and excel at our jobs (weather that is inside or outside of the home) and the list continues.

This can eat away at us and cause a troubled heart. What we need to do - and its hard for most of us - is to get over the "I'm not as good as _________" blues!
Gen 20:9

Or its the "Why Me?"
Jeremiah 51:5

Most of our guilt comes from comparing ourselves to someone else. It's time to get your eyes off the person you feel is 'in front of you' and start leading your own parade.
We know when we are sinning.
John 9:41

Definition: the fact of having committed a specified or implied offence or crime.

If we let it, guilt can cripple us, you end up not seeing the path God wants you to walk- Satan starts the questions "Why would God want me?  I'm not good enough to do ______, or be ________.  Satan is distracting us away from God's path.
Hebrews 12:1-3

In our Fear lesson we learned to stop asking "What If" and started saying "What Now?".  By doing this simple mind switch we can start becoming an open receptacle and to replace that guilt by letting God's love flow into us.
Romans 10:19

So many answers can be found in the Bible and it can be hard to know where to look. Try going to an online site such as BibleStudyTools.com. When you type in what you are searching for answers to, it can help you find reference verses to strengthen you.

A great way to get over guilt, take a 15 minute to a half hour break in your day to feed and nourish your soul. Listen to an uplifting podcast while your getting ready in the morning or driving to work. Start by reading Bible stories to your child, or grand children. There are also short daily devotional books or apps you can download on your phone or devices- read them on your bathroom break.

If you let guilt continue to have a foothold (and that includes using guilt to get your kids to do things) you will constantly feel something is missing or wrong.
John 16:8


10 Steps to overcome Guilt
  1. Realize that guilt is normal and we all have it.
  2. Think through why your actions made you feel guilty.
  3. Learn from those actions and promise to try not to repeat them. Realize we are all human, and this may not be possible, but make a personal promise to do better.
  4. Apologize to someone, if your actions hurt someone. This will help alleviate some of the guilt, and hopefully the hurt party will accept your apology.
  5. Take a lesson from the fictional character Scarlett O'Hara: "After all...tomorrow is another day." Realize each day is a new beginning filled with promise, hope and the opportunity to start over.
  6. Do not dwell on the actions that may have caused the guilt.
  7. Each time a guilty feeling arises, instead of wallowing in it, take one affirmative step. For example, if you feel guilty about having to file bankruptcy you can pay your electric bill the moment it arrives.
  8. Do a good deed. Helping others often helps the person who offers help.
  9. Seek medical assistance, if required. Excessive guilt could be part of a psychological or medical condition.
  10. See a trusted clergyman, priest or other religious figure. They can guide you when you do wrong, you have ultimately sinned against God, and the only way to be right with God and have your guilt removed is by a sacrifice being made.
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Women's Bible Study - Overcoming Guilt
Worksheet

1.     What can we combine with prayer to move past the Guilt?

  1. What is causing you guilt right now? 
    • Try to figure out why you feel guilty. Grab a pen and notebook, and write down a list of things that could be making you feel this way. It might be difficult, but eventually you will figure out what is making you guilty. If you can't figure it out, try this approach: Consider each thing on your list and imagine if you had not done it. If you immediately feel better or wistful, this is probably the thing which is making you guilty.
    • Rate your guilt. This might sound stupid, but it can really help. Out of ten, make two ratings: How bad the thing is that you've done, and how guilty you feel. After this, think about why what you did was bad, and why you feel guilty about it. This should hopefully leave your mind a little clearer, and allows you to think rationally about the source of the guilt.
    • Consider what you are going to do. If the guilt you feel is over something like being nasty to someone or neglecting a job or pet, feel reassured in the fact that you can do something about this. Write down what you're going to do, consider when and where, and take action. If your guilt is for something like a persons' death or a friend getting angry, acknowledge that it is not your fault, and it's natural to feel this way. Do something to relax and forget about it. It's not worth feeling guilty over insurmountable predicaments: nothing can be done and you will waste your life.
    • Once you get a better idea of why you feel guilty, don't run from it. If needed, you may seek help from friends you trust, pray, visit your pastor or elder or even professionals to shed some light on your situation. Chances are unless you have committed a serious crime you may have nothing to feel guilty about. In fact you may find out that someone else has been feeding you lies.
    • Learn to Forgive- the person that hurt you or forgive yourself for the pain you have been holding on to. It's the only way to go in order to achieve acceptance, which is a very important aspect of eliminating guilt. 

Friday, October 18, 2013

Women's Bible Study: Grow More In The Lord - Using God's Gifts

Women's Bible Study - Grow More In The Lord
Using God's Gifts
Oct. 17, 2013 Lesson & Worksheet

Recap last Meeting: Fear
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Welcome



How many times in a day do we hear negative things? Either about us or about someone else?  Do you try to turn it around or do you tolerate it?  (section 1 worksheet)

Have you ever thought about your gifts? We all have physical gifts and spiritual gifts. (section 2  worksheet)

Spiritual Gifts - gift supernaturally bestowed on Christians to edify the Body of Christ. Such as on the day on Pentecost. Most typically the Laying On Of Hands to heal or comfort.  Mark 16:17-18, Acts 8:17, Acts 19:6, 1 Timothy 4:14    (section 3  worksheet)

Gifts Can be a pretty broad term - a physical present you give to someone (Gen 25:6, Gen 34:12)
- gift given for a service (Numbers 18:6,9)
- to gain friends ((Prov 19:6)
- gift to the poor for tax purpose or not
- gift to enjoy life (Eccl 3:13)
* We're talking abut both spiritual (Exod 28:38), Redemption (Eph 2:8) and Physical

The three main gifts are Men to Men, Sacrifices to God, God Gives To Men
(lets discuss this)  (section 4 worksheet)

Have you every evaluated your gifts from God? We need to use these gifts given to us, by God, and share them with others.

Build on your strengths & Team up with people

Trigger God's blessing in all we do with generosity

The more generous you are the more God blesses your life!
God places you with your talent, in your church, place of work, etc, because he wants you to use it to help others. Don't waste it or let it rot.

To find out how to use our gifts let's discuss section 5 on the worksheet:

God has taught us that the more we give, the more we receive!
If you give your gift and use your gift with your heart it is not bragging, or self serving, it is what God intends for us.
Remember there is nothing Satan wants more than to give into our Fears and self doubt and not serve God.


(section 6 worksheet)
1 Corinth 13 - stresses that without love, Spiritual gifts are worthless.
  • vs. 1-3 has 4 examples (what are they?)
  • vs. 8-9 make a point of temporary gifts

(section 7 worksheet)
What gifts (strengths) can you share?
  • think out of the box
  • patience, prayer, sing, help someone write a resume


Prayer - Lord show me that your plan is always greater. I may not understand, but help me to accept your plan.  Help me to always choose service because I want to show your love to the world! We ask for God's help and guidance to lead us in using our talents wisely in the service of others.

Final thought
Be thankful to God for your gifts and talents. Practice and share them, even if your are not sure people will appreciate them. Use them for serving and helping on another and to help in your home and church communities.

Verses to meditate on:
Rom 5:15-18
Mark 16:15
1 Peter 4:10
1 Corinthians 12:18



















G.M.I.T.L: Using Your Gifts To Help Others
Worksheet
Oct. 17/13

On Oct. 3/13 our discussion was on Fear. Godly Fear and Human Fear. The only way to overcome your Fears is to Love Him and serve Him (Duet 10:12)
There are two verses I would like you to memorize or meditate on this week:
Psalm 147:11 
-  the LORD delights in those who fear him, who put their hope in his unfailing love.
and 1 John 4:18
- There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.


1) How could our fears hinder finding our gifts?
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2) What are some things you are good at?
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3) Have you ever received or experienced Spiritual Gifts? How did you feel?
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4) What are a few examples of the three main types of gifts? How would they make someone receiving them feel?
  • Men to Men
  • Sacrifices to God
  • God Gives To Men

5) MY ABILITIES ARE TO BE USED...

1.  Use my gifts to Honour God
"… whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God." 1 Cor. 10:31 (NIV)
2.  Use your gifts to Serve Others "God has given each of you some special abilities; be sure to use them to help each other, passing on to others God's many kinds of blessings."1 Peter 4:10 (LB)
3.  To Make a living
            "Remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you the ability to produce wealth…"Deut. 8:18 (NIV)
4.  To be an example to others
"Put these abilities to work; throw yourself into your tasks so everyone may notice your improvement and progress." 1 Tim. 4:15 (LB)
5.  To have money to share
"Begin using your hands for honest work, and then give generously to others in need."      Eph. 4:28 (NLT)
6.  Build up the Church
"Why is it that God gives us these special abilities to do certain things best?  It is that God's people will be equipped to do better work for Him, building up the Church, the body of Christ, to a position of strength and maturity." Eph. 4:12 (LB)
"Take the talent from him (who didn't use it) and give to the one who has ten talents." Matt. 25:28 (NIV)
If you don't use them, you loose your reward in heaven and your talent! 'If you don't use it, you loose it'
God has the right to take away our talents if they are not used or used to his purpose.

6)  1 Corinth 13 - stresses that without love, Spiritual gifts are worthless.
  • vs 1-3 has 4 examples (what are they?)
  • vs 8-9 make a point of temporary gifts

7) What gifts (strengths) can you share?
  • think out of the box
  • patience, prayer, sing, help someone write a resume

Prayer - Lord show me that your plan is always greater. I may not understand, but help me to accept your plan.  Help me to always choose service because I want to show your love to the world! We ask for God's help and guidance to lead us in using our talents wisely in the service of others.

Verses to meditate on:
Rom 5:15-18
Mark 16:15
1 Peter 4:10
1 Corinthians 12:18