Friday, August 22, 2014

The Armour of God - Shoes of Peace

Eph 6:15

Some also use the term  "Battle Shoes" to identify the "readiness" so we are ready to fully engage our faith when putting the battle shoes on.





"My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge"  Hosea 4:6

Its time to put on the third piece of Armour: Your Spiritual Shoes of Peace

What do shoes do?    They protect our feet, they become comfortable with wear, they give us better footing, with them we can walk or run longer distances than if we had bare feet. The spiritual footwear that comes from the "Gospel of Peace" gives us the firm-footed stability, promptness and readiness we'll need to face our agile adversaries.  The term "Gospel of Peace" refers to the peace we have with God through Jesus.
Romans 5:1-2 NIVIsaiah 53:5, Colossians 1:20,Ephesians 2:13-22



Everyday before you get out of bed, the first thing you need to do is put on your Spiritual Shoes.  This is what God gives you so you can 'stand' grounded in God's knowledge, truth and unchanging character.
Remember God's promise "For He Himself has said, 'I will never leave or forsake you' ".  This means God will not leave you to fight these demons; He is here to help you fight and win!  He also wishes you to use those shoes to move you forward in sharing His Word with others - to become His disciple.

Since we have gained access to God through this peace, we can use his resources to fight the spiritual battles we face.  Therefore, the gospel of peace extends our "battlefield endurance" by connecting us with God's protection, support, guidance and comfort at all times through the Holy Spirit.  

Putting on the Battle Shoes
  • Speak It:  Even though our faith in Jesus secures our peace with God, we often don't feel that peace.  It may even seem like God is not with us.  In such times it is helpful to remember that we put the whole Armour of God on by faith.  Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1).  We can't see our peace with God, but we believe we have it because God's word says we have it.  When we confess that we are putting on the battle shoes (and the rest of the armor), we are speaking them on in faith.  
  • Learn God's word:  The Bible is the reference book for the Gospel of Peace.  By studying the Bible and even memorizing key scripture passages, you will establish a foundation in the Gospel of Peace.  You will be less likely to slip off God's path of truth.  You will be firmly standing in good shoes! The psalmist declared in Psalm 119:165 NKJV, "Great peace have those who love Your law, and nothing causes them to stumble."
  • Don't be anxious about anything. Take all your needs and concerns to God in prayer: The devil will try to steal our peace, using the cares of the world, the desire for riches, fear and any other tool to get our minds off of God.  If we give in and begin to worry and get anxious about things, we'll lose the protection that comes with God's peace.  Paul wrote:
  • "Do not be anxious about anything, but in  everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your  requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus"  (Philippians 4:6-7 NIV)
Anxious? Gain peace by gaining confidence; gain confidence by reading God's Word; by reading God's word we draw nearer to Him; giving us more understanding and confidence.

When you put on your Spiritual Shoes and you stand for what you believe in, The Lord will stand right by your side helping you fight every spiritual battle that comes your way.  The key to standing is knowing the truths of the Bible - Open your Bible and read it everyday!

With all of our technology, devices, libraries, there is no excuse to not reading your Bible everyday.  When those fiery darts of demons come your way, stand firm in your Spiritual Shoes of Peace - God is standing with you!



Still unsure on how can you can put on our Armour when so many things seem to be against you?  To quote a famous saying from the '90s, "Just Do It!"  God is the one who can and will outfit us in His Spiritual Armour; we need to embrace it, encourage it and yes - share it.  Now and Today, not in the ever-tempting tomorrow.



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  1. Read Ephesians 6:15 - What does this say to you in your life now?
  2. Challenge - spend 15 - 30 minutes everyday reading your Bible. Don't know where to start? Just open it!
  3. Here is a prayer/declaration for today's lesson:   
    "I shod my feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace.  I have peace with God through my faith in Jesus and have access to God.  I have his resources at my disposal for the battles I may face today.  Father, please guide my footsteps and secure me on your path of righteousness today. Thank you, Father!"
      
  4. Is there anything in your life making you anxious right now?  Before you get out of bed in the morning pray for God to reinforce your Shoes of Peace, to help relieve and be rid of any anxious darts the demons are firing at you. 
  5. How are prepared to face each day personally + professionally?  Are you stepping out boldly and purposefully?



Study 1 -  Armour of God - Belt of Truth
Study 2 - Armour of God - Breastplate of Righteousness


source 1 - http://keepingitpersonal.com/2014/03/shoes-of-peace/
source 2 - http://ca.100huntley.com/video.php?id=fAyQ1cYim_I
Source 3 - Book; Christians & Demons: Armed and Anchored for Spiritual Warfare by Dr. Jerry Johnston

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Armour of God - Breastplate of Righteousness

Eph 6:14

Last week we learned about The Belt of Truth and how satan is the deceiver. We forget to seek the truth and we are tempted too easily in today's culture. If you missed last weeks study, you can find it here: http://creativeblogforcanadianmoms.blogspot.ca/2014/08/armour-of-god-belt-of-truth.html



Tonight we learn about Gods second piece of armour. The Breastplate of Righteousness.  The dictionary defines Righteous as
righteous  (ˈraɪtʃəs) 
— adj
1.a. characterized by, proceeding from, or in accordance with acceptedstandards of morality, justice, or uprightness; virtuous: a righteousman
b. ( as collective noun preceded by the ): the righteous
2.morally justifiable or right, esp from one's own point of view:righteous indignation

Why is the Armour of God so important?  We must wage war against "principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places" Eph 6:12

In today's culture we feel the need to be careful that righteousness does not come across as conceit or self-importance. God wants us to wear The Breastplate of Righteousness as part of our armour to deflect Satan's fiery darts. Just what is it for and how do we wear it and why do we need it is why we're here tonight.


Thursday, August 7, 2014

Armour of God - Belt of Truth

Eph 6:14

Prayer

Jesus prayed for us, "I do not pray that You should take them out of the world, but that You should keep them from the evil one"  John 17:15

There are 6 key pieces to The Armour of God:

  1. The Helmet of Salvation
  2. The Breastplate of Righteousness
  3. Sword of The Spirit
  4. Belt of Truth
  5. Shield of Faith
  6. Sandals of Readiness and Peace

Do you know that the Lord wishes to put on our armor for us?  God wishes us to be ready to receive them – but he wishes to outfit us.

   Today I would like to share about the first piece of our spiritual armour. The Belt of Truth.  God knows that with this alone,  truth helps us to deal with every battle that comes our way, and it can actually help avoid battles — or even better, end them before they start.  Most battles are the consequences of lies and confusion, or rumors unchecked, or of fears that aren't truth. (Demons using gossip and bullies are great examples)

One of Satans most successful plans is when we're deceived by lies.  To counter this deceiver, we must find ways to discover truth, to accept the truth and to share that truth.  How can we do this?  
  1. -We use the Bible as a mirror, pray regularly asking God to search us.
  2. -We ask God what’s going on in our homes, work, mind, our hearts.
  3. -We ask God, search me and know me, and help me to know my self.
  4. -We ask God to heal the blindness of our eyes, so we are not deceived.


Jesus confronted the religious leaders of his day,
     "You are of your father the devil, and the desires of  your father you want to do.  He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him.  When he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it."
John 8:44

John discerned, "We know that we are of a God, and the whole world lies under the sway of the wicked one".   1 John 5:19

In today's culture it is becoming more and more acceptable for the little sins to slip by. As we do this we are slowly accepting the larger ones too. It's too easy for us to say a little white lie to help someone out or to cover a co-workers butt to their spouse or your boss. But what if it later was found out that the same person was stealing? Would you talk to them about the office supplies they took home or the personal phone calls they were making during office time? Or would you not say anything unless it was more serious?

   What about putting yourself in this little situation?  It's easy to overlook the little things but they can quickly snowball into a serious situation. Unhappy at work? Do you go to your boss and tell the truth? Or did you take a ream of paper, or play solitaire when you should've been working because you felt it was owed you?


The Belt of Truth is for us to recognize just how those fiery darts can distract us and that even small temptations can lead to sin. We must practice acting in truth as well as speaking it.

I have noticed that talking about spiritual warfare can be confusing and intimidating to some but if we don't start accepting Gods Armour and letting him put it on us, we as a culture, will not be in the future. We must be participants and encourage others to wear the Armour too.

Peter says we should not be surprised at the "fiery trials" or the "something strange feelings". God is testing us so that "He may know all" that is in our hearts.  1 Peter 4:12, 1 Corinthians 10:13, 2 chronicles 32:31


Applying truth to any situation sets us free! Jesus used truth when satan tempted Him and set the example for us in using this weapon.  He stood firm in the truth and applied God’s Word to each temptation… thus the battle was won. 

Thursday, June 19, 2014

Growing More In The Lord - The Daniel Plan

I have found myself spiritually starving these last few months.
-reading purpose driven life, and when watching an episode of 100 Huntley street, I was introduced to the concept of the Daniel Plan

I find myself having to be careful for fear of Spiritual overload, you know - the too much of a good thing and then perhaps getting sick of it for awhile?  Although that hasn't happened yet.

So tomorrow I start The Daniel Plan. It's not a diet. Well, it is and isn't....
It works best with many people and I hope I hear from you and we can do this together. Either online or in person.

This is a journey of five practices over 40 days:

  1. faith
  2. food
  3. fitness
  4. focus
  5. friends
Check it out here and then get the book and please join me on this journey!


PS - at the same time I am enjoying the book/personal study of "What Happens When Women Say Yes to God" by Lysa TerKeurst

Please feel free to leave comments either here or on my Facebook or email me at valhobbywest@shaw.ca


Thursday, May 29, 2014

Its easier to be Naked- then to Pray in front of my husband....



Yep, you read that right....

I've been thinking about this allot lately. And about my church and my Faith.

Are you new in your faith? Are you devout and practicing for years? Or are you in spiritual wilderness right now- wanting to find God, but not sure where He is?

Some background on my Faith journey:
I had a VERY Christian/Faith centered childhood.  For as long as I can remember, my mom had us go to church with her and we went to Sunday School and I remember enjoying it very much.  
My paternal Grandmother brought me to Christ when I was 5 years old. 
I enjoyed and went to Pioneer Girls and then youth group in my pre-teens and early teens.

Then I got hit with the reality bus..... my family was not in the strongest financial position as we were growing up.  My parents made sure we had a home, food on the table and other basics and they tried very hard to attend to the needs of 4 children.  My mother, being a great seamstress, offered to take in used clothing, sort it, wash it and mend what could be saved for donations.  In exchange, us kids got to go through the box and pick out a couple of things for ourselves - I thought this was awesome!

I remember being so excited to wear one of these treasured outfits to church.  However, this all changed once I got there.  A couple of girls kept pointing at me and whispering to eachother (I'm used to this as I have never been a 'traditional' run-of-the-mill person- I like to be me).  After the service, one of the mothers came up to me and in front of many others, said, "That was my daughters outfit. Aren't you fortunate to have people like us to pass on our older cloths so you can look so pretty?)
There was also another incident right after but I won't go into it now.
So, at 17 I left the church.  Now, I didn't leave God, just going to church.  I felt I could enjoy worshiping Him outside, in nature, or 'keep in touch' by praying.  From what I had learned in Church and Sunday School, God doesn't take attendance and if you hold His Love in your heart then your good-to-go.

Today, its different - I have found a wonderful church home (I'll fill you in another time on how that came about) and my family and myself are very active within the church, which feels amazing!

There are two things I have been thinking of in the past few months:
  1. Why is our Church going through a change
  2. Where is God leading my personal life?

point 1:  Why is our church going through a change? 

I know a big part of this is individual arrogance.  Someone gets their feelings hurt or they want to do a certain thing in the church and are asked to do it differently or do something else and they take it personally. It may be that they don't feel entirely welcome, or were asked not to snore so loud the next sermon.
Some people think they can stand over the Pastor, let him know what he's doing wrong and give no idea of how he may be able to fix the issue. Or they criticize the way the leaders run the church  and don't help with any ministries in the Church and are then surprised when the Pastor gets 'burned out' or wonder why the rain of the Spirit has seemed to have dried up in the church.  They truly do not realize that you get out what you put in!  You see, Jesus said, "He that receiveth whomsoever I send receiveth me."

I know ministers fail sometimes. I know they make mistakes. Jesus knew they would too. But, even so, He said, "If you receive them, you receive Me."

If you don't like what the Pastor is preaching, then pray for him!  If it is really on your heart to share with the pastor, then talk, don't accuse and criticize. Refuse to let criticism hold back the anointing of the Holy Spirit.

The ministers of the gospel are not your servants, they're God's servants. Whether they're right or whether they're wrong, love them and respect them if for no other reason than to honor the One who sent them.
Likewise, your peers-the congregation church family, are not there to be looked down on, envied, pitied or even to compete with. They are there to offer comfort, love, hope, solace, a shoulder to cry on (sometimes) but most of all, they are there because God put them in your life for a purpose!

In our church we have had a bit of a turnover. You may be surprised by this, but I'm glad!  Its like the wheat being separated from the chaff.... Its a fresh beginning, a chance to pull together in our church family and really work to make the church strong and its members stronger!

Now (quickly) on point 2:  Where is God leading my personal life?

Forward for sure!  It has been a great journey this past 3 years since I've rediscovered my Faith. My family has joined me on this journey. I have a spiritual thirst and I am not shy to ask questions of my spiritual elders, church leaders or to research these questions on my own.
There are times (like now in my business), I need God to show me a blazing bill board on the direction my husband and I should take. But we have faith....

The one thing my husband and I really need to work on is praying together.  I don't know why but its easier to undress in broad daylight in front of my husband then to be able to pray with him; we get all shy in front of eachother when we need to pray together, just the two of us.  We don't have this problem when we pray in small groups or with others -  Its something we have to work on.

Thanks for taking the time to read my blog, especially if you got all the way to the end!  Thank You!
I would welcome any comments (good or bad) on what I have said in this post or any other.

Take care and God Bless!

Thursday, November 28, 2013

Grow More In The Lord: Helping Others Know Jesus

Women's Bible Study - Helping Others Know Jesus
November 21/13




"The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me 
To preach good news to the poor; 
He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim freedom for the prisoners, 
To recover the sight of the blind, 
To release the oppressed and proclaim the year of the Lord's favor." Luke 4:18-19 (NKJV)


Many of us do not know if we can be a Servant of Christ. What is it to serve? You know you can be a servant when you look at how you respond to someone treating you like a servant.
Do you have a servant's heart? Do you give your time and yourself to helping others when you can, because you can, or because you feel you have to?
Keep in Mind:  Jesus is asking us to do what He, Himself did when He was on Earth.

POINT TO PONDER:

I serve God by serving others.

“If you give even a cup of cold water to one of the least of my followers, you will surely be rewarded.” 
MATTHEW 10:42 (NLT)


A popular phrase today is 'Servant Leader'. Is this because of the human ego? When we declare ourselves a leader are we not expecting others to serve us?  God doesn't care what label we put on it; he just wants us to serve with our heart.
The more you serve the more God pours His blessings into your life.

The first step to bringing others to Jesus is getting baptized yourself. Not only is it a commandment in the bible, its also His wish that we declare publicly that as an adult we choose to follow Jesus and wish all who see us, to know we choose Jesus (and God).

The second step: God wants us to have connection with Him on the first day of every week. Sunday.  So we can be guided into our next week with a strong foothold.

Jesus read the prophecy of himself (the Messiah is coming one day) from the scroll of:
  • anointed me to preach good news to the poor
  • sent me to heal the broken-hearted
  • to proclaim freedom for the prisoner
  • to recover the sight of the blind
  • to release the oppressed and proclaim the year of the Lord's favour

The third step: How can you know if you have the heart of a servant? Jesus said, "You can tell what they are by what they do."

1. Real servants make themselves available to serve.
When God calls upon us for an act of service, do we grumble? Do we reject it, saying that our schedule is already filled to the brim? Real servants don't fill up their time with other pursuits that could limit their availability. Just like a soldier, a servant should be ready for duty anytime. Are we available to God anytime? Can he mess up our plans without becoming resentful?
Let's remind ourselves at the start of each day that we are God's servant, so that interruptions won't frustrate us as much, because our agenda will be whatever God wants to bring into our life.

2. Real servants pay attention to needs.
Servants are always on the lookout for ways to help others. John Wesley, an incredible servant of God, once said, "Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the places you can, at all times you can, to all the people you can, as long as you ever can.  "That is greatness.
We can begin by looking for small tasks that no one else wants to do. (yes, even cleaning the church toilet)

3. Real servants do their best with what they have.
Servants don't make excuses, procrastinate, or wait for better circumstances. God expects you to do what you can, with what you have, wherever you are. Less-than perfect service is always better than the best intention.
One reason many people never serve is that they fear they are not good enough to serve. Well, the truth is, almost everything we do is done poorly when we first start doing it - that's how we learn.

4. Real servants do every task with equal dedication.
As servants, whatever we do, do it with all our hearts.. The size of the task is irrelevant. The only issue is, does it need to be done?
You will never arrive at the state in life where you're too important to help with menial tasks. Jesus specialized in menial tasks that everyone else tried to avoid: washing feet, helping children, fixing breakfast, and serving lepers. Nothing was beneath him, because he came to serve. It wasn't in spite of his greatness that he did these things, but because of it. And he expects us to follow his examples.

5. Real servants are faithful to their ministry.
Servants finish their tasks, fulfill their responsibilities, keep their promises, and complete their commitments. They don't leave a job half undone, and they don't quit when they get discouraged. They are trustworthy and dependable.
Faithfulness has always been a rare quality. Most people don't know the meaning of commitment. They make commitments casually, then break them for the slightest reason without any hesitation, remorse, or regret. Every week, churches and other organizations must improvise because volunteers didn't prepare, didn't show up, or didn't even call to say they weren't coming.
Can we be on counted by others? Are there promises we need to keep, vows we need to fulfill, or commitments we need to honour? God is testing our faithfulness. Imagine what it will feel like one day to have God say to you, "Well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling this small amount, so now I will give you many more responsibilities. Let's celebrate together!"
Faithful servants never retire. They serve faithfully as long as they're alive. You can retire from your career, but you will never retire from serving God.

6. Real servants maintain a low profile.
Servants don't promote or call attention to themselves. Instead of acting to impress and dressing for success, they "put on the apron of humility, to serve one another." If recognized for their service, they humbly accept it but don't allow notoriety to distract them from their work.
Serving in order to impress people with how spiritual we are, is the sin of the Pharisees. They turned helping others, giving, and even prayer into a performance for others. Jesus hated this attitude and warned, "When you do good deeds, don't try to show off. If you do, you won't get a reward from your Father in heaven."
In our bodies, we have several prominent parts that we could live without. Most people could go on living without an arm, a leg, or even an eye, but nobody could live without a brain, or a heart. It is the hidden parts inside our bodies that are significant.
Knowing this, let's not be discouraged when our service is unnoticed or taken for granted. Keep on serving God! Even the smallest service is noticed by God and will be rewarded. Remember the words of Jesus: "If, as my representatives, you give even a cup of cold water to a little child, you will be surely be rewarded."


Who Jesus came to help


"THE POOR"  
Types of poverty: The Have Nots of life.  There are times in our lives when we don't have what we need. i.e- time, energy, money, spiritual feeling.... There are times we are lacking.
·          Material poverty (have the world is living on $2 a day - North America is very rich in comparison (Mother Teresa and the banana)
·          Moral poverty - lack of integrity or knowledge of right and wrong or just want to do what's easiest or best for you
·          spiritual poverty - don't know what God has planned for your life. So many don't know how much God loves them


"THE BROKENHEARTED"
The Let-down:  The term broken-hearted came from the bible - Psalm 69:20
there is the Broken-heart syndrome where a traumatic event will cause your own body to release a chemical that breaks down the tissue of your heart
·          disappointment- don't turn out how you planned
·          rejection - when you feel rejected by a loved one or someone you respect
·          resentment - holding a grudge, eats you alive


"THE IMPRISONED"
Types of prisons: 
·          addictions - and compulsions; substance, event, porn, relationship
·          secrets - you don't feel you can share or tell someone (James - confess to each other) revealing your feeling is the beginning of healing
·          ignorance - lack of education.  Half of the world cannot read or write. Bible talks about Jesus being a teacher and how He teaches us
·          fear - the bigger it gets the tighter your prison. Fear only gets bigger if you don't share
The Locked Up in their own life someway - sometimes resulting from being Broken-hearted


"THE BLIND"
Types of blindness: The shut out of life - don't get to experience what others see and do because of their prison
·          relational blindness - you don't see how you're messing up the relationship, and you don't see the self-defeating attitude. what the common denominator in those failed relationships? you!  Men can be clueless in this way...
·          spiritual - close our eyes to the goodness of God and attribute that good to ourselves; although blame God for all the bad things that happen
·          physical blindness - colour blind, night blind, total blindness


"THE OPPRESSED"
Types: The kicked around - by circumstances, taken advantage of, bullied, etc
·          political - refugees have been pushed out of their country. Those enslaved, this is not outlawed outside of North America. (c
·          cultural - depending on where we live. Asia has girls that go neglected, or infancide (the killing of first born baby girls), each year 2 million girls between 5 and 15 sold into sexual slavery or honour killing (husband or father thinks the wife or girl did something wrong against the family)
·          spiritual  - depressed, stressed, give it all up.  This is a gift from Satan to discourage you



"The year of JUBILEE"  - year of the Lord's favour - law in Leviticus -
·          God said he didn't want us to be work slaves (every 7 days take a day off for rest and worship- commandment).
·           Every 7th year let the land rest and take that year off (sabbatical - to recharge) -
·          every 50th year have a year of Jubilee; every debt cancelled, everyone in prison for debt or enslaved for debt is set free, the land returns to original owner.
He did this in honour of the promised land to let everyone realize that we don't actually own anything, its just on loan for however many years you are on this earth. Its like God evens the score for everyone.  But Israel never observed this so God.  So the served become the servants and the servants can redeem themselves.
"I have given you an example to follow. Now do as I have done to you." John 13:15 (NLT)

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Women's Bible Study - Helping Others Know Jesus
November 21/13- Worksheet


  1. Which of the six characteristics of a real servant offers the greatest challenge to me? ____________________________________________________________
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  1. How do I serve? __________________________________________________
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  1. How can we follow What Jesus came to do? List a person that shows you the following:
"Preach good news"

"Heal the broken-hearted"

"Proclaim freedom"

"Provide recovery of sight"

"Release the oppressed"

  1. Start with your own family today. Serve them as you can, when you can (without the resentment of 'getting taken advantage of').  Explain to the children why you are doing the laundry, cooking meals, volunteering outside of the home. Show them how to be a servant with a glad heart.  
  2. What 3 things will you do this week to kick-start your serving others?
  3. Share the good news of Jesus (with someone you know).
  4. Share that you are a Christian at work. Work it into a conversation.  Find that person around you that may be hurting others, they are hurting themselves and need your Love and serving.
  5. Remind yourself that Jesus is with you, everyday! Talk to God frequently every day- He will show you where you can serve or how to introduce Him to others.  Perfect Love of Christ casts out all fears. (the fear of embarrassment or rejection is caused by Satan and is worse than actually doing the deed we fear)
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E-vedance
A-ppearing
R-eal


THE P.E.A.C.E. PLAN: JESUS' STRATEGY
Promote reconciliation 
Equip servant leaders (pastor, volunteer coordinator)
Assist the poor
Care for the sick
Educate the next generation

God knows when we are weak and wants to help us to show others His Love!

"… I have become a servant of everyone so that I can bring them to Christ… When I am with those who follow Jewish laws, I do the same, even though I am not subject to the law, so that I can bring them to Christ. When I am with Gentiles… I fit in with them as much as I can… so I can bring them to Christ. But I do not discard the law of God; I obey the law of Christ. When I am with those who are oppressed, I share their oppression so that I might bring them to Christ. I try to find common ground with everyone so that I might bring them to Christ. I do all this for the sake of the Good News, and in doing so I enjoy its blessings."
1 Cor. 9:19-23 (NLT)



How are we going to help others know Jesus?
by growing into and showing a servants heart

Encouragement - Memory Verses
Isaiah 60:1-2


This lesson inspired by The Purpose Driven Life Day 33

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Women's Bible Study - Overcoming Guilt


Women's Bible Study - Overcoming Guilt
November 7/13

Today's world has so many over-expectations for women. We are needed to run the home, teach our families how to work together, perhaps we are the one in charge of the family finances, we need to help a sick friend, attend church, be a strong Christian and excel at our jobs (weather that is inside or outside of the home) and the list continues.

This can eat away at us and cause a troubled heart. What we need to do - and its hard for most of us - is to get over the "I'm not as good as _________" blues!
Gen 20:9

Or its the "Why Me?"
Jeremiah 51:5

Most of our guilt comes from comparing ourselves to someone else. It's time to get your eyes off the person you feel is 'in front of you' and start leading your own parade.
We know when we are sinning.
John 9:41

Definition: the fact of having committed a specified or implied offence or crime.

If we let it, guilt can cripple us, you end up not seeing the path God wants you to walk- Satan starts the questions "Why would God want me?  I'm not good enough to do ______, or be ________.  Satan is distracting us away from God's path.
Hebrews 12:1-3

In our Fear lesson we learned to stop asking "What If" and started saying "What Now?".  By doing this simple mind switch we can start becoming an open receptacle and to replace that guilt by letting God's love flow into us.
Romans 10:19

So many answers can be found in the Bible and it can be hard to know where to look. Try going to an online site such as BibleStudyTools.com. When you type in what you are searching for answers to, it can help you find reference verses to strengthen you.

A great way to get over guilt, take a 15 minute to a half hour break in your day to feed and nourish your soul. Listen to an uplifting podcast while your getting ready in the morning or driving to work. Start by reading Bible stories to your child, or grand children. There are also short daily devotional books or apps you can download on your phone or devices- read them on your bathroom break.

If you let guilt continue to have a foothold (and that includes using guilt to get your kids to do things) you will constantly feel something is missing or wrong.
John 16:8


10 Steps to overcome Guilt
  1. Realize that guilt is normal and we all have it.
  2. Think through why your actions made you feel guilty.
  3. Learn from those actions and promise to try not to repeat them. Realize we are all human, and this may not be possible, but make a personal promise to do better.
  4. Apologize to someone, if your actions hurt someone. This will help alleviate some of the guilt, and hopefully the hurt party will accept your apology.
  5. Take a lesson from the fictional character Scarlett O'Hara: "After all...tomorrow is another day." Realize each day is a new beginning filled with promise, hope and the opportunity to start over.
  6. Do not dwell on the actions that may have caused the guilt.
  7. Each time a guilty feeling arises, instead of wallowing in it, take one affirmative step. For example, if you feel guilty about having to file bankruptcy you can pay your electric bill the moment it arrives.
  8. Do a good deed. Helping others often helps the person who offers help.
  9. Seek medical assistance, if required. Excessive guilt could be part of a psychological or medical condition.
  10. See a trusted clergyman, priest or other religious figure. They can guide you when you do wrong, you have ultimately sinned against God, and the only way to be right with God and have your guilt removed is by a sacrifice being made.
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Women's Bible Study - Overcoming Guilt
Worksheet

1.     What can we combine with prayer to move past the Guilt?

  1. What is causing you guilt right now? 
    • Try to figure out why you feel guilty. Grab a pen and notebook, and write down a list of things that could be making you feel this way. It might be difficult, but eventually you will figure out what is making you guilty. If you can't figure it out, try this approach: Consider each thing on your list and imagine if you had not done it. If you immediately feel better or wistful, this is probably the thing which is making you guilty.
    • Rate your guilt. This might sound stupid, but it can really help. Out of ten, make two ratings: How bad the thing is that you've done, and how guilty you feel. After this, think about why what you did was bad, and why you feel guilty about it. This should hopefully leave your mind a little clearer, and allows you to think rationally about the source of the guilt.
    • Consider what you are going to do. If the guilt you feel is over something like being nasty to someone or neglecting a job or pet, feel reassured in the fact that you can do something about this. Write down what you're going to do, consider when and where, and take action. If your guilt is for something like a persons' death or a friend getting angry, acknowledge that it is not your fault, and it's natural to feel this way. Do something to relax and forget about it. It's not worth feeling guilty over insurmountable predicaments: nothing can be done and you will waste your life.
    • Once you get a better idea of why you feel guilty, don't run from it. If needed, you may seek help from friends you trust, pray, visit your pastor or elder or even professionals to shed some light on your situation. Chances are unless you have committed a serious crime you may have nothing to feel guilty about. In fact you may find out that someone else has been feeding you lies.
    • Learn to Forgive- the person that hurt you or forgive yourself for the pain you have been holding on to. It's the only way to go in order to achieve acceptance, which is a very important aspect of eliminating guilt.